There are several different approaches you could take to
writing a eulogy. What’s most important is to be respectful to both the
departed and the mourners in attendance at the funeral. Here are a few points
from our funeral service in nj has
learned over our decades of experience:
Your Audience
Understands This Isn’t Easy – The people you will be speaking to are in the
same boat you are, they are in mourning. They understand how difficult it is
for you to speak and they appreciate that you are taking the time and the
effort to do so despite how you are feeling. So long as you are respectful, you
will be appreciated.
It’s Better to be Too
Short than Too Long – Short and sweet will go over a lot better than a long
speech. That doesn’t mean say under 100 words, but it does mean that when in
doubt whether or not to add something more to your eulogy it’s better to move
the funeral along than to risk tiring your listeners during a trying time.
Don’t Be Afraid to
say “No.” – If you feel truly
unprepared to give a eulogy, don’t be afraid to decline. Mourning is hard,
perhaps the hardest thing you will ever do. Some people are more suited to
giving eulogies than others, it doesn’t mean that you don’t care. It might mean
that you are overwhelmed by how much you care. Passing the torch to someone who
feels better equipped to handle the eulogy isn’t a sign of cowardice, it’s a
sign of respect that you want to give your loved one and those in mourning the
best memorial possible.
Don’t Be Afraid to Ask
for Help – Not everyone is a born writer. If you need help writing a eulogy
or personalizing your memorial in any way, ask one of the experts at our funeral service in NJ.
Here are a few tried and true elements you can include in
your eulogy...
Recount How You Met –
Every relationship has a beginning that lead to so much more. When telling
someone’s story, beginning at the beginning can be simple and effective.
Tell an Anecdote –
Memories are stories and good memories make for good stories. For many people
one individual story tells us a wealth about what they were like in life. For a
charitable person, one act of charity can help us remember how charitable they
were. For a funny person, telling a story of a particularly funny thing they
did will remind mourners of the joy they brought them. Once you’ve told your
anecdote you can provide a bigger picture of your loved one that will be
appreciated by everyone in attendance.
Share What You’ve
Learned from Them – We learn a lot from the people in our lives and people
who have impacted us the most are often the best teachers. Sharing what they’ve
taught you with their loved ones can be a powerful memorial.
Read a Poem – Was
there a poem that particularly reminds you of the departed? Share it. Song
lyrics? Read them. Make sure that they are respectful and evocative and a
reading can do a lot.
To learn more about how to write a eulogy or plan other
elements of your funeral service in nj, call Bergen Funeral Service Inc. at
(800)262-7901.
Bergen Funeral Service - Your Trusted funeral service in NJ.
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